Just Fucking Do It

The life you want isn’t waiting for you to feel ready. It’s waiting for you to decide.

Now that I have your attention, let’s dive right in.

This past year, I posted each month around the theme of “Do It Scared.”

This phrase is a family motto for me and my boys—one we adopted long before I left the high-demand religious cult I was raised in.

Leaving the cult was just the first in a long line of hurdles:

I came out as pansexual.

Then as polyamorous.

Then I got divorced.

And somewhere along the way, this one line became the lifeline for the three of us.

There were times I felt like I was drowning in grief—navigating life as a single mom to two neurodivergent boys, without a solid co-parent.

I lost my steady corporate job.

We moved multiple times.

I held breakups and broken dreams in the same breath.

The hits just wouldn’t let up.

Even now, almost six years later, I still find myself bracing for whatever might smack me upside the head next.

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When Survival Becomes Second Nature

So what does this nostalgic trip down memory lane have to do with a blog title that will probably have someone clutching their pearls because I said “fuck”?

Simple.

The time has come for this lifeline to evolve right alongside me and my boys.

“Do It Scared” has become so ingrained in who we are that it’s second nature now.

Every day, one of the three of us is choosing courage at a level we never thought possible.

Sometimes it’s small—like asking someone for their number.

Sometimes it’s big—like living every day as a proud transgender man in training.

And sometimes it’s huge—like telling your mom you want to return to the faith she fought like hell to leave.

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There Is No Prize for Playing Small

There is no time to play small with your life.

You only get one—and every single day, there’s a chance it could be your last.

That doesn’t mean we rush decisions from fear.

That doesn’t mean chaos or recklessness.

But it does mean we stop shrinking.

It means we stand in our truth.

It means we stop “shoulding” all over ourselves.

It means we stop waiting for permission that was never coming.

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So Now What?

It’s time.

Time to show up authentically.

Time to make messes.

Time to take up space.

Time to give fewer fucks about what society says is the “acceptable” path—and start building a life that actually fits.

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Welcome to What’s Next

My hope is that somewhere in this series, you find what you’re looking for:

Hope

Rage

Courage

Reassurance

Love

Strength

Space

Visibility

Connection

Join me as we dive into all the ways we can stop waiting…

…and start living.

And just fucking do it.

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💭 Reflection Prompt

What is one thing you’ve been waiting to feel ready for?

What would it look like to do it scared anyway?

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Feel free to share your reflection.

Be strong. Just fucking do it. 💜